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Let’s talk about FEAR, BABY!

May 20, 2011
by Coach Cora



“The cave you fear to enter, holds the treasure you seek.”-Joseph Campbell

“Let’s jump out of a plane! TODAY!” I was surprised to hear those words coming out of my mouth. But they did. Loudly.

At 19, I was sitting on the beach in Australia with my friend Lauren. We were watching sky divers drop out of the sky and into the grassy field behind us.

“Okay,” Lauren replied.

“OH SHIT!!!” I thought. “She said YES! Now I actually have to follow through.”

So we walked to the Sky Diving company headquarters and signed up.

There was very little time to feel the Fear. We watched a short informational video, probably 10 minutes at most, and climbed onto the plane.

We would be sky diving tandem. TRANSLATION: large middle-aged man named Dave harnessed to my hind quarters. Honestly, this was as intimate as I’d ever been with a man. (not quite, but close)

Adding to the awkwardness, I was beginning to feel a slight tension in my heart and my stomach. As the plane climbed into the air, I began to sweat profusely from pores I didn’t even know existed.

Then the dungeon door was swung open. 10,000 feet above the safety and security of my friend, the Earth, the wind rushed into the plane from outside. I immediately felt my body push itself back to the other side of the airplane.

FEAR had overtaken my entire Being. All I could do was shake my head and say, “No no no no” over and over again, breathlessly, like a ingénue in a Horror Movie.

Lauren, on the other hand, calmly said, “Let’s go!” And before I knew it, she leaped out of the plane, leaving me lonely and terrified. I didn’t want to do it. I was ready to back out.

Dave, my new “butt buddy”, said, “Alright Cora it’s our turn.”

“No, no, no, no,” was my brilliant and brave reply.

He didn’t say a word in response, just pulled me over to the door. Looking down below was there was tiny, sliver of a metal step for my foot and then the idea was to jump from there.

“No, no, no……AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!”

He pushed me. Dave pushed me.

And the Fall, the leap into the Unknown, the risk….was….

BEAUTIFUL.

As Neal Donald Walsche states, “Our life begins where our comfort zone ends.”

Going outside my comfort zone, is UNCOMFORTABLE. The Fear rears it’s ugly head, inevitably. The question is, do I let the fear stop me or do I move THROUGH the fear?

That day, sky diving, I moved THROUGH the fear.

Was it worth it? ABSOLUTELY.

Other times I have felt the fear and moved THROUGH it?

-Leaving a job I didn’t love to pursue my business
-Every time I go to an audition for a play or musical
-Walking down the aisle towards my beautiful life partner
-Each time I sit down to write a Blog Post

That day, sky diving, I felt the fear, and I jumped, and I leaped into the Unknown, the darkness.

I landed on solid ground grinning from ear to ear, my heart and soul shining and open and surrendered. Fear leads me to expansion, growth and upliftment in my life. It isn’t always easy. Yet it is SO worth it.

Thank you Fear. I love you. You guide me in the direction I need to go.

Cora + Fear= Best Friends Forever!!

For a free Break Through your Fear Session with Coach Cora email cora@sexysoulwellness.com. The session is 30 minutes and over the phone or Skype!

6 Comments leave one →
  1. May 20, 2011 12:29 pm

    AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I loved it! Sooo right their with you… in fact my palms feel a little sweaty! hehe. Fear is terrifying and exhilarating and life changing in the most incredible way!
    I was just writing a quote today about surrender, and how it is not defeat but rather a huge dose of COURAGE! :)

  2. May 20, 2011 1:38 pm

    Love your post, Cora! Especially your tag, Cora + fear = Best Friends Forever! I may try that one on for size! And your climax … sometimes if we go as far as we can, we are lucky to have someone push us that last step! Love to you, Daria

  3. Joan Hoedel permalink
    May 20, 2011 2:50 pm

    Cora, you rock! Love your posts, love your smile, love your courage – you are an inspiration. Have a fabulous day filled with joy. :)

  4. Derek Dude Hadley permalink
    May 20, 2011 4:42 pm

    That is scary Cora……! I’m just dizzy thinking about it. But one particular person convinced me I should go skydiving with her…. and that’s the only time I would EVER do it, haha! Better to go with someone you trust, right? :D

  5. anita kopacz permalink
    May 20, 2011 6:23 pm

    wonderful article! so on time for me. thank you!

  6. May 21, 2011 5:21 pm

    Living in the fear zone baby! Thanks love :)

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