I’m Dating Again!
I’ve decided to start dating again.
It’s time.
I’ve been in a dating rut for awhile. So overly focused on my business, my One Woman Show, Acting Class, holiday prep, and day to day logistics. Life has been incredibly amazing, but something has been missing.
It’s time get back out there.
Am I perusing online dating sites?
Hitting up Singles Mixers?
Going on blind dates with friends of friends?
Nope.
I am looking across my apartment at my partner of almost 10 years. The beautiful, wise, and steady Mr. Benjamin Hamm.
My Life Date.
You see, I have to admit that I have been taking him and our relationship for granted. We are like a well-oiled machine and we work together extremely well. We give each other unlimited space and support for our separate goals and dreams.
We have Family Meetings once a week where we discuss finances, schedules, and future plans with grace and ease.
I am so grateful for all of this.
But lately, we have turned into Life Business Partners, as opposed to Life Love Partners.
This hit me recently when my mom asked me, “What do you and Ben do together for FUN?”
Crickets…
Fabulous question. I used to know the answer. When we first met, our life was filled with fun experiences together.
We loved going on runs, hiking, playing board games, exploring new neighborhoods, fake house hunting, sporting events (more fun for him than me), dance classes (more fun for me than him…see it evens out), visioning of our dreams and goals, going to plays and musicals, etc etc etc.
Yet, somehow we moved away from all of this.
Up Until Now.
Two days ago, I sat down next to Ben and said, “Would you be willing to date me again?”
He laughed and then looked at me and realized I was very serious.
“Really?” he asked.
“Yes.”
“Of course,” was his (correct) response.
We went on our first “date” yesterday, exploring apartment possibilities and neighborhoods in Brooklyn. We stopped into a cozy candlelit coffee shop and talked and laughed and cried. (Okay, Okay, I cried)
It was a two hour date, yet that was MORE than enough time for me to remember how much fun I have with Ben.
Yet, I remembered more than that. Ben is MUCH more than a Life Business Partner.
He is my Best Friend. My Life Partner. My Teacher. My Inspiration.
And absolutely, my #1 Date…
For Life.
How fun and wonderful! It does seem that as couples, we often get into the “business” of living our lives together and tend to put aside all the dating and fun things we did early on. I love that you and your honey are reconnecting with each other in this way!
Have a blessed holiday!
Thanks Cricket!! Glad to know it isn’t just us!:) Yes, SO important to cultivate what brought us together in the First Place!!!
Happy Holidays to you too!!
Good job, Cora (and Ben)….love, DAD!!!!!!
Thanks Dad!! Love you!!!
That’s awesome! It sounds like so much fun.
Totally!!!
So many options…
Hop you are well Dude!!
love this Cora!
Thanks Shannon!!
What do you and Dino do for fun? We’d love some ideas!:)
Thanks Cora for this post. I totally get it. I’m inspired to start dating my sweetheart again!
Happy Solstice and Thank you for shining your Light!
Many Blessings,
Vicki
Oooh!! Enjoy the dates Vicki!!!
Best part of dating , is falling in Love all over again ! I love falling in love again . I do my best to achieve it every year . After almost 13 years of marriage and 15 years together , sometimes you need to remember all the reasons you are together to begin with . I think it is GREAT you are dating again . Hey Maybe we can double date !
I agree Dana! Falling in love again and in an even deeper way is AMAZING!! I am all for the Double Date! YAY!
I live this, Cora! Perfect post; with the holidays and my parents coming over and my progressing pregnancy, not to mention our furry baby, Bella, my husband Jess and I have not had fun time together in a while, more of errands and stuff that need to get done. Thanks for reminding me about this! I still need to catch up on studies, and try I squeeze some exercise in besides walking Bella, but I also need to squeeze time in for Jess and me.
Oh yes! That is A LOT on your plate!!
Have fun with the Therese and Jess time!
Love and light!
Cora…I so enjoy reading your blog, a peek into that beautiful heart and mind of yours and to hear the deep contemplation that you so lovingly live your life through and with. This awareness you shared here was actually something I was discussing with my best friend today. I thought, had my ex husband and I continued to honor our love, and not be consumed with being “Mr and Mrs Something or other” we would have made it. I loved him heart and soul, but somehow we grew apart. While I recognize that was to be, for this is my journey, your wisdom will spark other hearts into cherishing their beautiful partner and love of their life…and that my lovely friend, is what its all about.
Thank you Leslie!!! I love that you were JUST talking with your friend about this very topic. AWESOME!!!
I LOVE YOU!!!!!!
So very glad to read this! You are both amazing people and complement each other so well. It is so important to keep the laughter and conversation going. Blessings on you both. Mum
Thank you Mum!!! You and Dad are an inspiration. I LOVE YOU!
Yay!
Hi Coach! So glad I read your latest blog post. I need to start dating again too! It is long overdue. Thank you for sharing. Much love and light to you!
Thanks Jen!! Please keep us posted!!! Have you been dating??
Cora,
I am very happy to read this post about how you are going to begin to infuse your relationship with more fun and excitement. LOVE the idea! Knowing you has been a gift beyond measure. Hearing how well you both work together just gives me a really good feeling about where you are in life. Yaay!
Congratulations on your successes, and I wish you both only the best in this new journey to strengthen your love for each other. The Universe is at your beck and call!
Love you always!
Patrick Martin Jr.
Oh Patrick…thank you for this beautiful message!!! Love you tons and tons!!!!
WOW! This was such a powerful and genuine post! Thanks Cora. This theme tends to be coming up with me lately surrounding relationships. I guess I should pay attention now!
Has it been coming up frequently? Hmmmm….Synchronicity!:):):)
Well, well, Cora, the way to go. Did you say the University of Santa Monica helped?
I LOVE this post, Cora! So awesome
Thank you Bianca!!! I am honored by your affirmation. Especially because I look up to you deeply as a blogger!! Love you!
Very, very sweet! It is so easy to get so busy with life that we tend to take our loved ones for granted. Nice to see someone recognize it and act on it.
Thank you Bill!! Yes! Definitely and amazing learning experience!! And a good Daily Reminder for my husband and me!