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I was a LOSER!

May 9, 2012
by Coach Cora


My high-school varsity basketball team’s record was rather horrendous. Truly.

We won 4 games in my 4 years on the team.  Yikes.

However, at least I learned “It’s NOT all about winning.” Yeppers, that lesson sunk in, let me tell you. :)

I loved basketball, even with our record, and I learned so many life lessons from the experience.  Here are a couple.

1)  It doesn’t matter how much make up we wear or how adorable the ribbons in our hair look, to win games, we have to have talent and skill to back up the cuteness.

2) Don’t get caught up in what the crowd is saying or thinking.  And it’s not all about the hotties in the stands.  One time I was so twitter-pated with a boy in the stands that I accidentally took a shot, and almost scored, on the OTHER team’s basket!  Oops.

But more seriously, I learned about Vibrational Frequency.

Esther and Abraham Hicks say that whenever we are in a conversation or connection with another person who seems a bit down, heavy energetically, or dark, we can either CHOOSE be pulled down to their vibrational frequency, or invite them up to ours. It’s our CHOICE.

Whenever my team played against another school that was much stronger and  more talented, we would leap up to their level and play beautifully. Okay,  we wouldn’t necessarily come away with a win (Record: 4-74), but we would all step up and have much better games individually and collectively.  If we played a team that was weaker and less skilled, we allowed ourselves to stoop down to that level and play rather “low vibrationally.”

We wouldn’t play nearly as well individually or collectively.  And usually, we would lose.

This was our pattern, like clock-work.  If we had competed at our actual skill level and potential, with every team, we would have been met with amazing success.  No doubt.

How many times in my life, have I behaved like my basketball team?

In the past, I have allowed someone to gossip in my presence, and yes, even joined in on the negativity.

Or, I have heard someone complaining about how life is so “hard and such a struggle.” Instead of offering a script shift or a re-frame, I have chosen to agree and wallow with them.

It might feel good to have someone to commiserate with in the moment, but going forward, no one wins.

In fact usually, we both lose.

Like me team.

However, what if next time someone gossips, I choose to change the subject.  What if I ask that person about their Wins, Celebrations, and New and Goods in life? What if I ask them about who they love, and why?  What if I invite them to share their Gratitudes.

Then, my dear readers, then we have a Win-Win.

Then, we uplift one another’s vibrational frequency.

And in doing so, raise the vibrational frequency of the Collective Consciousness.  In other words, the Vibrational Frequency of the whole world uplifts…because of YOU.

So really, it’s a Win-Win-Win-Win-Win-etc…

And the person with whom you were speaking, goes off to the rest of their day, vibrating in the Love and the Light and spreading that frequency wherever they go.

The Ripple Effect of CHOOSING uplifting connection and conversation with others is limitless.

By the way,  I just checked this year’s record for the Girl’s Varsity Basketball Team at my old high-school.   18-4.

Hmmmm….looks like someone got the High Vibrational Message.





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4 Comments leave one →
  1. Amberly permalink
    May 9, 2012 1:45 pm

    What an inspiration piece, my dear :)

  2. May 9, 2012 6:22 pm

    Perfect timing!! After a lovely holiday I have come back to work and immediately got into a conversation with a colleague who had negativity seeping out of every pore. I felt my joy seeping away too. next time – I know what to do.

  3. May 10, 2012 2:58 pm

    Great article, Cora! So true. So true…

  4. June 8, 2012 11:35 am

    Ok so the first two lessons you learned….hysterical!!!

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