by Guest Blogger, Tim McCauley
In 2009, I decided to stop, evaluate, and decide how I wanted the rest of my life to go.
In that month of contemplation, I came to the realization that something in me wanted to be a writer, and always has. So, I made the decision to write. I didn’t wait for permission or shop around for a book contract; in June of 2011 I self-published my first book.
Along with my recognition of my Call to writing, I quit my job in Los Angeles, moved to Brazil, was deported from Brazil, and came back to Southeast Ohio. After the book was published, I realized that Ohio was a good place to be for a while; very few distractions. I became VERY engrossed in my work.
I work, research, write, and Coach every single day. If I kept track I’m most likely be putting in 13 hour days. Even the books I read for pleasure are part of my mission.
I’m not complaining. I do all of this out of love. I wouldn’t change any of it.
A few months ago, I had saved enough money to take a short vacation. I felt I deserved a break. My first thought was to use the plane ticket I already had to go to L.A. and visit friends, surf and hang out for a week or two. I logged in to see what dates would work for me, and started to get a little nervous. So, I logged out and went for a walk.
You see, at this point in my life, I’ve realized that my brain doesn’t always know what’s best for me. I have some desires that my brain knows will make me feel good, but those things rarely bring lasting happiness; they just leave me wanting more.
So, any time I start excitedly making plans to do something and I feel a level of uncertainty I put that on hold. I turn everything off and do one of the following:
-sit in meditation
-go for a walk
-set up my hammock in the back yard
The main goal here is to relax fully and completely. If my memory is correct, that day I chose the hammock.
Something about a hammock just brings me to a sense of ease and comfort; not a worry in the world and from that sense is a gentle whisper of a voice.
That gentle voice said to me, “Tim, you live four miles from an 800 acre lake. Look into getting a Stand Up Paddle Board. It’ll serve multiple purposes; you will step away from the computer, you will get in shape, and you will feel like you can walk on water!”
So that’s what I did; I spent my vacation money on a Stand Up Paddle Board. Weather permitting I go out to the lake four days a week and put in about 10-15 miles each visit.
I actually place it on my calendar each week. It’s an appointment with myself; a few hours of connecting with Nature and feeling completely in Love with life. Each night in my journal I remind myself that the reason for money in my life is to allow for more freedom; which I already have.
Anyone familiar with me knows that everything in my life becomes a metaphor or a spiritual lesson at some point; Stand Up is no exception. Not only has the few months transformed my body, but it has also reminded me what is really important in every aspect of our lives.
It’s fundamental in everything we do. We must be rooted and grounded in ourselves to move forward in life with ease.
In paddling there is a point where the board gets a glide and your job is maintain that glide by finding a rhythm that doesn’t upset the flow. Proper use of number 3 is required.
Real power in Paddling and in life comes from your core! In sports the core is in your midsection and power transfers through your hips. In life the core of your being is waiting for you to find stillness within yourself.
4. Mindful Awareness
On any given day on the lake water is moving. As you paddle you have to become aware of the subtle signs of where that water moves, then you have to move your board to that spot and connect with it. Life is the same. Find the flow that best suits you and move into it.
I feel so connected with the Universe when I surf or paddle. It could just be an endorphin rush, or it could be that I’ve allowed my brain to find Harmony and peace. I’m not sure. But, I do know that if I don’t have the chance to go out to the lake today, I will do another activity that helps me cultivate an inner sense of connectedness. (Facebook doesn’t count.) Meditate, contemplate love, see the whole world in your mind’s eye and give it a HUGE hug.
Tim McAuley is a self-help junkie who loves to write and share his observations of the world. In his debut book, Tim takes us on his journey of coming to terms with difficult life circumstances, a life-or-death decision to get sober; the story begins when he learned to ride a wave – not only the ocean surf, but the metaphoric wave of the present moment. Tim has been offering his brand of Coaching (Soul Surfer Instructions) since. If you’d like Tim to email you a PDF version of his book Sign Up Here
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As part of the Outrageous Living Challenge, I paraded around New York City spreading the message, “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!”
Wanna know what happened??
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May you look in the mirror and see LOVE,
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My audience loves me. And I love them. And they love me for lovin’ them and I love them for lovin’ me. And we love each other. And that’s cause none of us got enough love in our childhoods. And that’s showbiz, kid.
~ Roxie Hart
“This might sounds crazy, but would you be willing to go topless for this scene? It would really add to the performance,” my director asked.
I was paralyzed.
“Okay, well, your silence means ‘No’, but how about taking off your dress and just having lingerie underneath?”
I knew that undressing was something Estelle, my character from the play No Exit, would do. I trusted that this new move would assist me in integrating and channeling Estelle for the audience. However, it was still terrifying.
My Director wanted me to get “naked” on stage, in front of a Full House.
Yet, the Truth is, I was ALREADY naked.
With Acting and Performing, I feel naked whether or not I have taken off any clothes. I am like Eve, after eating the apple, worried what God or the Audience or my Director might be thinking…
Will they like my work?
Will I let my scene partners down?
Will my director be disappointed?
What will my friends and family think?
Will I do this character justice?
It’s VULNERABLE as hell! Walking onto stage can feel like walking out in front of a Firing Squad, diving into a Black Hole, the Bermuda Triangle, where there is a REAL RISK of failure, death even, or at least the imminent danger of scathing reviews.
As Performers we bust our butts for weeks, months even, memorizing lines, integrating ourselves and the character, script analyzing, choosing actions and objectives for EVERY line, and cultivating chemistry with scene partners.
We spend hours in rehearsal and only see the light of day for brief intervals during walks from my Home Office to the theater space.
My normally VERY understanding and supportive husband begins to think I have been kidnapped or that I am cheating on him. “I think you are having an affair,” he said to me the other day.
I forgo sleep, put my social life on hold. My parents in Kansas worry that I have run off and joined a cult that doesn’t allow cell phones.
All of this for the Love, the Commitment, to the Craft of Acting. The Call of a Performer.
And on top of all of this, I am asked to take off my dress on stage. To strip down in front of all these people. To be fully seen by an entire audience.
This seems like A LOT of work, right? Only to be Naked on stage, completely vulnerable to the feedback, judgment, critique of a room full of hundreds, sometimes thousands of judges?
So WHY do I choose to be a performer?
Because of the rush of leaping into the unknown?
Because of the high from a successful show?
Because of the exactly two times someone has asked me for an autograph?
Why do I choose to be a performer?
Because there is NO WAY, none, not even a chance that I could ever NOT be a performer.
I was born for this. I have been performing before I could talk. I was a VERY expressive baby.;) This is what I do. Every play date my whole childhood revolved around imagination, writing plays, singing, and performing. When I am not involved in a creative pursuit, I feel like a part of me has died.
Only those who are Called will understand what this means.
Performing is part of my LIfe Calling. I experience a deep channeling of Love, Light, Healing, and Divine Spirit whenever I am on stage.
When I am performing…
I am Home.
When I am with my Director, my Scene Partners, My Audience…
I am with My Family.
And I would do ANYTHING for my Family.
My Director looks at me. “So Cora, How about it? Can you take off your dress? It would do wonders for the scene.”
I smile. “I can do that,” I tell her.
I mean, I will be on stage, Home, and with my Family.
Letting my light shine into the Unknown, I will already be totally Naked.
And totally, completely, and utterly
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by Guest Blogger, Jenna Cassoli
I’m generally healthy—especially for an over-stressed, working grad-student! But even with reasonable nutrition and regular activity, I was tired a lot, heavy, and felt crappy. So I tried giving up white flour 6 days a week for 7 weeks. Here’s what happened…
Day 1: I worked 12 hours, which meant no time to eat out of boredom! Obstacles at work: crazy-looking pastry, ziti, brownies, corn muffins, cupcakes, pizza…Seriously, workplace? As a student I’m programmed to accept all free food, but I didn’t today. I ate just the fruit. Also: apparently Twizzlers have flour in them???
Day 5: Day off: pizza/cake at my cousin’s birthday party = NOT worth it. Could I have adjusted to a gluten-free diet this quickly? Did my body then stage a coup because I reintroduced it?
Day 8: It’s amazing the foods that come through my 2 workplaces. Yesterday there were donuts. Then a coworker brought in his mother’s famous homemade cookies. There were also veggie wraps (healthier, but flour tortillas!), more cookies, and crackers. Today, it’s lemon cake. This is ridiculous! Still avoiding it.
Day 11: Experimenting with being out to eat and gluten-free is new for me… Having to get creative about food choices is giving me a more open mind about trying new things. Lately it’s been less frustrating-challenge, and more delicious-experiment.
Day 18: At cocktail hour yesterday, I ate cheese. ONLY cheese. I couldn’t have the bread that it came with. The cheese was lovely, but I felt I was missing out. I’ve been feeling really hungry lately. I haven’t strayed from my plan…but I just want calzone!
Day 19: “Day off” = BAD. My friend had a birthday party, during which I gave myself no restrictions. In general I think it’s good to have days where you’re not worried about restrictions. But I had crostini, pizza, and THREE (count ‘em, three) types of cake. Ugh.
Day 28: Tonight I had a work event, with a huge spread of food. My self-imposed restrictions led me to better options. My coworker ate this delicious apple crumble thing I’ve had before and know to be amazing. She ate it next to me, and I didn’t even crave it. Woohoo!
Day 34: This morning I went to a catered breakfast event for school. I could have eaten French toast (it looked really yummy), muffins, danish, and bagels. But I easily walked by. Instead, I enjoyed scrambled eggs with chive, breakfast potatoes, and fruit. After passing up 4 flour-filled options, I still had plenty to eat AND felt satisfied. And, as I was sitting at the table, I noticed that I needed a belt! I’m getting too small not to wear one!
Post-Experiment: For 4 days after the experiment, I allowed myself to eat anything. It was ugly–pasta, dinner rolls, my mom’s homemade cookies. I promptly gained 5 pounds, looked really puffy, and felt tired—literally the whole 40 days reversed in a tenth of the time.
Now: I’m looking for balance. I’m sticking with mostly gluten-free, having 100% whole wheat when I eat wheat, and allowing myself occasional indulgences. I changed my habits overall (I may never eat another Twizzler!). When I saw donuts at work today, I was more aware that they’re not a “special treat”—there’salways something deliciously unhealthy around! I steer clear of that now. Balance today meant skipping the donuts, but having a sandwich (bread, but 100% whole wheat!). Wonder what balance will look like tomorrow…
Jenna is a part-time graduate student, studying clinical social work with a health concentration. Currently a career counselor and an alcohol counselor, she studied psychology and public health in undergrad. At her university, Jenna is currently involved in a Latin American immersion learning program, the graduate dance group, and Arts Festival. In the future, she is interested in doing health-related counseling, school social work, or art therapy. Jenna also makes handmade jewelry, which can be seen at jennijewelry.blogspot.com!
My high-school varsity basketball team’s record was rather horrendous. Truly.
We won 4 games in my 4 years on the team. Yikes.
However, at least I learned “It’s NOT all about winning.” Yeppers, that lesson sunk in, let me tell you.
I loved basketball, even with our record, and I learned so many life lessons from the experience. Here are a couple.
1) It doesn’t matter how much make up we wear or how adorable the ribbons in our hair look, to win games, we have to have talent and skill to back up the cuteness.
2) Don’t get caught up in what the crowd is saying or thinking. And it’s not all about the hotties in the stands. One time I was so twitter-pated with a boy in the stands that I accidentally took a shot, and almost scored, on the OTHER team’s basket! Oops.
But more seriously, I learned about Vibrational Frequency.
Esther and Abraham Hicks say that whenever we are in a conversation or connection with another person who seems a bit down, heavy energetically, or dark, we can either CHOOSE be pulled down to their vibrational frequency, or invite them up to ours. It’s our CHOICE.
Whenever my team played against another school that was much stronger and more talented, we would leap up to their level and play beautifully. Okay, we wouldn’t necessarily come away with a win (Record: 4-74), but we would all step up and have much better games individually and collectively. If we played a team that was weaker and less skilled, we allowed ourselves to stoop down to that level and play rather “low vibrationally.”
We wouldn’t play nearly as well individually or collectively. And usually, we would lose.
This was our pattern, like clock-work. If we had competed at our actual skill level and potential, with every team, we would have been met with amazing success. No doubt.
How many times in my life, have I behaved like my basketball team?
In the past, I have allowed someone to gossip in my presence, and yes, even joined in on the negativity.
Or, I have heard someone complaining about how life is so “hard and such a struggle.” Instead of offering a script shift or a re-frame, I have chosen to agree and wallow with them.
It might feel good to have someone to commiserate with in the moment, but going forward, no one wins.
In fact usually, we both lose.
Like me team.
However, what if next time someone gossips, I choose to change the subject. What if I ask that person about their Wins, Celebrations, and New and Goods in life? What if I ask them about who they love, and why? What if I invite them to share their Gratitudes.
Then, my dear readers, then we have a Win-Win.
Then, we uplift one another’s vibrational frequency.
And in doing so, raise the vibrational frequency of the Collective Consciousness. In other words, the Vibrational Frequency of the whole world uplifts…because of YOU.
So really, it’s a Win-Win-Win-Win-Win-etc…
And the person with whom you were speaking, goes off to the rest of their day, vibrating in the Love and the Light and spreading that frequency wherever they go.
The Ripple Effect of CHOOSING uplifting connection and conversation with others is limitless.
By the way, I just checked this year’s record for the Girl’s Varsity Basketball Team at my old high-school. 18-4.
Hmmmm….looks like someone got the High Vibrational Message.
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She walked into the little juice bar, Organic Avenue, yesterday where I was enjoying a Veggie Drink and writing my Morning Pages.
When she entered the room, the entire space vibrated with love and light. The sun seemed to shine more brightly and I swear I could see little cartoon birds on her shoulders and squirrels following her inside. She was the epitome of a Goddess/Mother Nature/Glam Gal all rolled up into one.
I was in love.;)
As I started to pack my bag to leave, I heard a voice say, “Go talk to her. Give her your business card. Tell her what you do!”
What? I would look like a total stalker crazy woman. No! There is NO WAY! She is going to think I am hitting on her or want something. Ewww…
“Cora, I love you. Go talk to her.”
So I sheepishly gathered my bags, moved over to where she was sitting, and pretended to be extremely interested in the raw kale chips that were on sale.
Then I turned to walk out. Chicken!!!
As I went to open the door to leave, I felt nauseous. “Go talk to her.”
Okay, Okay Source. I hear you. You will not leave me alone until I speak with her.
I walked over to this glorious Being, looked her in the eyes, and I am sure I was blushing when I said, “I just want you to know that you are SO beautiful. You have SUCH a bright light around you and within you. Thank you for shining.”
She grinned from ear to ear, jumped up, and gave me a huge hug.
“I thought the same thing about you!” she said. “You have such a beautiful smile.”
We stood there, looking at each other, in mutual adoration and awe.
Then she said, “I am in town from Vancouver for the Holistic MBA Conference. It’s a conference for Heart Centered Holistic Practioners!”
“OHHHH!!! I am a Raw Food Chef, Coach, and Head Educator at a Raw Foods institute in Vancouver called the Raw Foundation. Let’s talk! Let’s do a tele-class or group program together. I would love to interview you.”
And I could go on and on. It was such SYNCHRONICITY! Anything is possible with this new connection. I was on an absolute high leaving the juice bar.
Spirit set us up on this impromptu date. It was destiny. We were meant to be “together”.
Thank God I listened. Thank God I responded. Thank God I didn’t deny the message that was so clear, so loud…”Go talk to her. Tell her how beautiful she is to you.”
When Spirit speaks, it would behoove all of us, to listen.
And then give thanks and gratitude for the magic, miracles, and gifts that are EVERYWHERE, when we choose to claim our Divine Connection.
Oh and in closing, I see YOU.
You are beautiful.
You have such a bright light in you and around you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for shining.
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In my past I have had a raging Co-Dependant relationship…it was intimate, it was juicy, it was dramatic…
and it was with…
MY CELL PHONE.
I bought my first mobile phone when I was a junior in college and I carried it with me EVERYWHERE. It felt so thrilling and new to to call a friend at ANY POINT during my day. I even made phone calls to friends while jogging on the trails behind my school.
I was a bit obsessed.
One of my Cell Phone Rituals consisted of calling friends to chat EVERY TIME I was walking somewhere. I had a daily couple-mile jaunt to my job at the Boys and Girls Club so each time I walked, I talked…and talked, and talked, and talked!
It was compulsive. I was filling up every minute of every day with connections to other people. With this cell phone, it was truly possible to be connected OUTWARD at all times (even while on the toilet…TMI? oops).
One beautiful Spring day, I was walking back to campus from work, and I pulled out my trusty partner, my Cell Phone.
Yet, something stopped me from dialing.
I tried again…something prevented me from making that call.
And then I heard a Voice…it was warm, slightly chiding, with a rolling giggle underneath the words.
“You know my dear, you can put the cell phone down and dial my number ANY TIME.”
I felt shivers up and down my spine as if every cell in my body was vibrating. Deep breath.
“You know my dear, you can put the phone down and dial my number ANY TIME.”
My first inclination was to hide in shame (now I know how Adam and Eve felt). I felt naked before God, caught red-handed in a desperate attempt to fill ALL my time with outward connection.
Spirit’s invitation was to connect WITHIN.
With the Love, Light, and Wisdom that is inside all of us. With my Inner Guidance, my Intuition. With the Divine within.
“Okay God. I hear you. I love you. Thank you.”
I placed the cell phone in my backpack and proceeded to have a full on conversation with God. Out Loud. Whether or not others perceived me as the Crazy Lady walking down the street talking to herself.
And it was wonderful.
I did a lot of talking, but most importantly…
to that still small voice inside of me
to my True Partner and Soulmate on this Life Journey
to the Voice of Unconditional Love and Acceptance
and I cried, and laughed, and learned…
Yes, I listened, and I dialed Spirit’s Number…
and realized that much more important than my Cell Phone, was my HOME Phone.
I Listened…and came Home.
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